Loving People Like Jesus

Hello there!

I’m so sorry it’s been so long since I’ve blogged. My priorities have been to focus on my upgrades for college and now that those are done it’s a waiting process to get my marks back. Since that’s done I’m hoping to be able to put a bit more of a priority on my blogging and novel writing. But today I’m gonna work on writing up some posts and finishing up ones I started so today my friend Cori has written another guest post so I’ll let her share what she’s written.

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Growing up I learned that people are not always the easiest to love all the time. I was taught that you have to love everyone, even if you don’t like them.

One of the most important commandments is to love your neighbors as yourself. God said that himself. Treat others the way you would want to be treated is something my youth pastor would say often. Although not always the easiest route, it is the way that Jesus lived himself.

Jesus hung out with people that you wouldn’t really expect. He made friends with the liars and cheats. The outcasts. The people nobody wanted to be. I think He did this to set an example for us today. He didn’t have to love on those people. But he chose to show them the love and respect every person needs.

Now that doesn’t mean that Jesus took crap from people either. He would correct them when they were wrong, in a very polite yet clever way most of the time.

Don’t think I’m telling you to hang around a murderer and be best friends with them. But I am telling you to love that person no matter the sins they struggle with because, in the end, his sin is the same as mine. Even if mine seems minuscule in comparison God sees all sin as the same.

When I was in grade school the teachers would always pair the new kids or the weird kids with me because In my house you treated everybody the way you would want to be treated, therefor I was always the nice one in class, even when I didn’t want to be I was paired with them. Now I was a very shy kid. It was pretty hard for me to do this. But I felt the call that God put on my life to follow him at a young age and I knew it was the right thing to do.

There was this one kid who nobody got along with. I’m not gonna share her name but she was a nice kid. Just a bit strange. Once one of my friends asked me why I hung out with her so much. I simply told them that she deserved to have friends too. At the end of the school year, we went our separate ways but her mom came up to me and thanked me for being so nice to this girl. She was a bit hyper and talked A LOT but I did enjoy her company and learned to love her very much.

I wish more kids would give each other a chance rather than judging a book by its cover. It’s so hard for me to see all the bullying and abuse that goes on In schools these days. It’s sad.

I learned pretty young that it’s honestly so rewarding and worth getting to know a person no matter how much they annoy you.

Now I know we aren’t all in grade school here. That was just one example. I have another. Take homeless people for example. I have worked and served homeless people for as long as I can remember. But some people won’t even look in their direction. Some Christians don’t even see them as people.

I’ll never forget the day that I went up to a homeless man and gave him some food and he looked at me with tears in his eyes. He said nobody would even look at him that day. He searches in his bag for a ring he had made and he gave it to me saying that he wishes there were more people like me in this world.

I’ve given people on the streets Christmas presents that haven’t gotten anything for 25 years and they’ve broken down and asked me to watch them open it. It wasn’t much just some essentials and little things and a book but he was so thankful for his gift. He said that maybe there really is a God that loved him all because I treated him like a normal person for a few minutes.

I love these experiences. Ones with people who think they don’t even deserve it anymore. Broken people. I see them as a beautiful creation of God and it’s almost magical seeing these moments.

If people could just open their eyes and see them as people in a bad circumstance the world would be a much more beautiful place. But let’s move on to another example.

Now we’ve all had that one neighbor that everybody hates right? I have anyways. Those people are one of the hardest to love. Just the meanest most annoying people you’ve ever met right? Well God calls us to love even them. I know crazy right?! Well, I know for a fact that Jesus would have gone up to that guy and said: “I love you no matter what the sin you are struggling with.” So we are called to do the same. That’s not always the easy thing to do but sometimes the hard choice is the best choice.

So many times in the Bible the Pharisees would scold Jesus for hanging out with “that guy” like why would a guy like you hang out with a guy like them? Love, that’s the answer. Unconditional unfailing love.

I know these words aren’t really something easy to read but it’s very important. So next time you just can’t stand someone, pray for them. It not only changes them but it changes your heart towards them. I’m not saying you have to like them, but you must love them.

“Lord help me to love like you do. Help me to love my enemy’s and pray for them. Help me to go up to the weird kid and be their friend. I thank you for your love and grace on us. We don’t deserve it but you made us deserve it by dying on the cross for us. Help me to spread love through out the world and shine your light through me. In Jesus name, I pray, Amen”

Thus Begins A New Chapter

As one chapter comes to an end, another begins.

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I feel like this last week has been me adulting like crazy.

I’ve been meeting with some of my best friends.

I’ve been setting up power and internet stuff.

I’ve beenย buying furniture and dishes.

I’ve been trying to change my cell phone plan to better fit this next step in life and SO much more.

 

Why?

 

Because I’m moving.

Away from home.

To a new job.

With a new apartment.

 

I will still be around and blogging so don’t worry about that ๐Ÿ˜‰ but yeah. I’m moving. I’ve been living with my giant lovable family for 19 years so this is a weird experience for me as I’m also moving 6 hours away from my family. I’m gonna miss them like crazy but I’m thankful for technology so we can talk frequently and stay connected but I’m also so excited.

I’ll ย be moving in with me bookworm, writer and nerdy fangirl bestie so that will make the transition a little easier so thats exciting. (Our tea and book collection combined will be envied by all for sure.) I’ll be moving to a new town and away from the nosy people I’ve had major run ins in town this summer. (#villagelife)

But by moving to a new town it means I’ll (once again saying it) be far from my really good friends, my family, and my church family. I know I will meet new people but I know that even when I do, they won’t ever replace the people I have met here.

The people who have impacted and changed my life.

It’s kinda what I’ve been dwelling on but I know that I’m not leaving forever and so my family and my friends who have become my family will see me again. With that I just want to say this:

No matter where you go, your family and friends will still be with you. Their love goes with you wherever you go. SO if you are called to go across the world then go. Or if you are called to move across town then go. If you are called to another town, city, or village, then GO.

Just do it.

Go.

Have fun. Enjoy life and know that as this new chapter in your life begins that the people you know and love go with you in your heart.

Finally!…A Writing Post!

Hello Readers!

Finally, I am bringing to you another writing post. (Took me a while right?) I am glad to see that people are enjoying all my new post series so far, but I really need to be getting back to my normal writing posts, don’t you think?

But first, a little update of life just in general, sound good? I have had multiple reasons for not doing writing posts lately, one of the reasons being I have a lot of blogs to post on weekly so trying to find time for all these posts is getting a little hard. (But now that I’ve made a calendar of all my blogging days things should become easier/more smooth.) Even more so now that I have taken the first step towards a blogging career a couple weeks ago, and I am now blogging weekly for an amazing blog called The Bottom Line. Also, as you all know, NaNoWriMo is going on. Usually around this time one of two things happens.

1.) My frequent posts lag

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2.) They’re all about NaNoWriMo. (Which reminds me, I am gonna be posting (hopefully this week) a fun little post where I show you my ‘NaNoWriMo Survival Kit’)

Right now I do not want to let these posts lag so my ‘Novel Time’ posts are currently just about my NaNoWriMo Novel and such, but once NaNo is done those will be my writing posts. This coming Tuesday (I know technically there is not supposed to be a post every Tuesday) I will be doing another linkup to tell you a bit more about my novel and characters! (Fun right?) and I have another post coming in a couple weeks that is gonna be great! Just think sneak peaks, more character quotes, An update on my novel, My playlist for my novel and Rowan’s character interview (feel free to pop on over and ask him some questions here. and thanks to those who have already asked questions) As for NaNo I am STILL behind but I kind of figure this was going to happen…why? Because I didn’t outline…again so I really don’t know what will be happening in the novel. (When will I ever learn? Have an outline for NaNoWriMo people! Saves so much time!) Oh well, as long as I work my hardest, it’s all that counts really ๐Ÿ™‚

So, now that that little update is out of the way, it’s time for my post! *cue cheers from the crowd of bloggers*

Today’s post is about Writing Emotions in a Relate-able Way

Writing emotions in your novel can be hard. First of all you actually have to write realistic emotions but second of all, they have to be relate-able. So not only do you have to make the characters emotions and reactions real but you have to make them relate-able? Yes, yes you do.

I oftentimes struggle when it comes to emotion stuff (at least in the first draft…If you don’t believe me, ask Vanessa…It’s bad.) Anyways. My issue is that, yeah the emotion is there people are reading it but when it comes to feeling the emotion…meh. It’s okay. If you are a writer you might understand what I mean. Like, the emotion is up there, its in your head it’s killing your feels (You know that feeling you get where you’re heart feels like its being pulled in every other direction and then it feels like someone shot your heart then took a hammer to it.) but getting that emotion and feeling out onto paper (or your glowing white word document ๐Ÿ˜‰ ) and helping the readers see and feel that emotion is tough work. I mean, sure, no one gets it ‘perfect’ or ‘right’ in the first draft but there are some element we as writers all struggle in. Some areas are good as others, but some aren’t.

Something else, when writing emotions, that is both a blessing and a curse (depending what it is) is trying to make something the reader might not have ever felt and making them feel it. Making them understand. Or helping them anyways. Because we all know that we can’t make a reader DO anything…

…but we can crush their souls beyond repair. Mwahahahaa-*cough* oh my. *cough* Did I just say that out loud?

Anyways as I was saying…As a writer, its our job to share things we have felt or are feeling and make those things come alive on the page. They need to be real to the reader whether or not they’ve experienced the said emotion. Now, I am not in any way saying that you should baby your readers or explain everything to them as if they were little kids who only know the words ‘Happy’, ‘Sad’ or ‘Angry’ when it comes to emotions. That’s not what I’m saying at all, what I’m saying is that as the writers of this story we can’t just tell them the emotion this character is feeling. We need to show them. (This is where the whole Showing vs. Telling thing comes in.) Here is an example.

In my NaNoWriMo Novel ‘Aimlessly Wandering’, My main character Claire suffers from depression. Now, I could just say in the novel somewhere that she suffers from depression but that isn’t really enough is it? I mean, I’m telling the readers but I’m not making it believable or relate-able am I? You, as the reader, can just take it for granted and if I say she had depression then she does, but that just isn’t enough! You have to show it.

So instead of just telling the readers I could put my character in a certain situation to amplify those feelings. I could put her in a room of people who she knows and is friends with but show how she still feels alone. I could show the numb feeling that’s slowly taking over her body little bits at a time and refusing to let go, or the fake smiles and conversations so people don’t know what she’s really feeling, or the empty alone feeling that has her in its clutches giving her that sensation that she just wants to go home and that she doesn’t belong. I could show this inner battle inside her mind to tell someone that she is close to that she needs help and show how she doesn’t say anything about it. (This is a very basic description but I am just trying to get my point across)

This really does, like most elements of writing, loop back constantly to the whole Show don’t Tell scenario and I really think that that is key in order to get the reader to see, feel or hear anything. Actually, I don’t think I know…

So, is there a way that you write certain scenes? Do you wait until you might feel something similar to the character in that scene so you can write it more effectively? (I know some people who do) Or do you use previous experiences? How do you do about it? Do you just write or do you have your own little technique?

Also, once again before I leave I wanna remind you to, if you haven’t already, maybe pop by and ask my MMC Rowan some questions? (Click here) He’s a cool guy and cannot wait to interview him! I think y’all will like him ๐Ÿ˜€

Well, that’s all until Next Time!

Adriana Gabrielle