Long Distance Relationships – The Real Thing ft. My Boyfriend

So fun fact about me: I’m in a long distance relationship. This is a collab post with my boyfriend to give you a little insight to what that might be like.

Hiiiiiiii I’m Boyfriend

Also by the way, so there is no confusion as to who is talking as it’s a collaborative post between Kolton and I, if you see colored text then it’s my boyfriend.

 

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So I figure I should start off this post telling you a bit about how Kolton and I met. We actually didn’t meet until almost a year after we met…if that makes any sense at all. (She means in person) Kolton and I first met through our school board. We were both in an online homeschooling program for high school and that’s how we ‘met.’

 

Okay. So Adriana didn’t tell the whole story here.

 

Well sorry. Was trying to give you the opportunity to do some storytelling here too…

 

Yeah yeah sure you were. Okay, so here is the real story about how we ‘met’. So one day after I was done my classes, one of my friends and I decided to see how many people we could invite to a group chat before the system crashed. (#thejoysofonlineschooling ) I’m fairly certain we had over 50 people in the chat. Nevertheless, Adriana was one of the people who got invited. The chat was complete chaos but someone mentioned Skyrim (a game both Adriana and I love) and we went onto a private chat and started talking and we have been talking every single day since then. THERE THAT IS THE STORY!!!!

 

Well…That’s the story (basically) of how we met summed up. We didn’t meet in person until May 2015 (a little over 6 months after we first started talking) at a youth conference called YC and the rest is history basically. You will kinda figure out a little bit more as this post goes on but today, Kolton and I wanted to talk to you about what (for us) a long distance relationship looks like.

 

 

So one thing we wanted to discuss is: What does our relationship looks like on a daily basis?

  • Lots and lots of text messages and lovey dovey emoji 
  • Random and spontaneous video chats.
  • Constantly missing the other person and hoping that they are doing well.
  • Wondering if the other person misses you as much as you miss them.
  • Days we do get together are either meticulously planned or consist of no planning what so ever there is no in between.

 

 

What have you learned from being in a long distance relationship?

Well in all honesty, Kolton and I have only been dating since June but I mean we have known each other for about two years now and have liked each other for a fair chunk of that time. We both just decided not to rush into a relationship as when we met he lived 16 hours north of where I lived.

Here is a list of Pros and Cons we put together to show what we have learned from a LDR.

Pro:

  • The time we spend together is special and greatly cherished as it is few and far between whereas if we lived a lot closer we would spend more time together and it wouldn’t be as big of a thing when we spend time together (if that makes sense)

Con:

  • The amount of times we see each other is very little compared to seeing each other all the time if we lived in the same place. In result it makes things very difficult. (since we started dating we have seen each other twice once near the end of summer and once in the middle october)

 

 

Pro:

  • You talk a lot and communicate very well. In that sense you’re able to build a stronger relationship with each other over time because of the distance and the constant communication.

Con:

  • Sometimes you just really don’t care about the ‘stronger’ relationship aspect of distance because you just want your boyfriend/girlfriend right here, right now and you wanted them here yesterday

 

 

 

Pro:

  • As many of you probably know Adriana is a Christian, and no one probably knows that I am a Christian as well. This is something that we both were looking for in a partner and something I would not have been able to find without going into a Long distance relationship.

Con:

  • The only con for that one ( ^^) is really just ‘Long Distance’ HAHA

 

 

Something I get asked often (I can’t speak for Kolton) is that people have asked me why I chose to be in a long distance relationship and how I manage it… So before we end this post I just wanna highlight that aspect. 🙂

 

 

So how do you do it? It must be sooooooooooooooo hard.

I honestly love when I get asked if I have a boyfriend. Why?

      1. Because I get to brag about my boyfriend and how awesome he is

And

  1. I get to watch the shock and horror on their face when I tell them I’m in a long distance relationship…. Especially when Kolton and I lived 16 hours from each other. People’s reactions were priceless! They literally resemble something like this GIF I posted below:

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I choose a long distance relationship because to me it’s not about where the person you love is to me it’s about who you love and my girlfriend has the qualities that I have found to be extraordinarily attractive and ones that in this world are found few and far between. I have fallen in love with her and she is one in which i see myself to have a future with beyond dating (which should be the real true reason you date someone
(truth)) and to be it’s a huge bonus that she is super attractive. *winky face*

Long distance may be hard but if you find the right person at the end of the day it is totally worth it. No matter if you are 2 hours apart or 20 however much you put into the relationship that is what you are going to get out of it. If you truly like or love this person and you truly see a future with them you will make it work similar to people in a ‘normal’ relationship. You cherish the time you spend together and you await the next visit. The final thing you do is hope for the day when you never have to be a part again. That’s what Adriana and I do. Isn’t that right, babe?   

Totally true. Also I know that I personally get the question a ton about how we make it work and really it’s the same as what any relationship should be like. You put in what you get out of it. (I already made that point you nugget) With the long distance, he and I have to make that extra effort to communicate and just make our relationship work BUT I feel like it should be the same in any relationship no matter the difference. Really the only difference between a LDR is just the long distance. Really everything else is and should be the same as any other relationship.

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Distraction Free Writing

Hello Readers!

So today I am going to share a few tips with you lovely people on how I go about getting the most out of my writing….Which means going distraction free.

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Now, I don’t know about you guys, but as my days go on I find myself getting more and more distracted every morning I sit down to write. Whether that be by the internet or my phone. Over the past couple days, I’ve asked a couple of my friends about what distracts them from writing and just made a list of different ways you can go about focusing on your writing but still staying connected. (As in, if you wanna keep Twitter open, then great! Go ahead 😀 ) Now, I’m sure all these ideas are not new to y’all but sometimes I myself like a little reminder of alternatives to keep from getting distracted.  *writes the author as she gets distracted and ends up taking a ten minute twitter break*

Anyways! Here is a list of different distraction free approaches (all of which I use) to writing.

1. Do a series of Word Wars/Word Sprints.

Probably my favourite thing to do. I’m quite competitive so a little playful competition can really get me going. Because, setting a timeframe where I have to write and knowing that someone else is racing me to get the most words, really gets me going.

 

2. Have another writer friend keep you accountable.

This is another thing I do. If I am texting or chatting with another writer friend online and I need/want to go write. Sometimes I will say things like: ‘Okay. I am going to write for twenty minutes. If you see me online feel free to call me out on it and set me straight.’

That helps me keep accountable because the last thing I want is for my friends to scold me and think I’m a terrible writer! *gasp* That would not be good at all.

 

3. Use the ‘Distraction Free Writing’ setting on your word processor.

So, yeah. Just discovered this for WordPress ( WOOOOHOOO!) and I recently came to discover that both word processors that I use have this! It has worked wonders for me simply because. I love Twitter and my novel playlists are on Youtube. Both are distracting, and let me loose on Youtube and I’ll be watching every Ricky Dillon video in existence…a million times over. So, thats always nice when you have a playlist going or something and still don’t want to be distracted.

 

4. Set a timer.

Pretty simple. Turn on a timer and get writing. I find, by having a timer and KNOWING the minutes are counting down, that I get less distracted with everything else around me. (See #1 for similar alternative)

 

Bonus: 5. Turn off your Wifi and put away that phone

So, with this one, you can’t really stay connected or online considering you are turning off your Wi-fi. BUT this is my back-up plan. If I’m getting distracted, with the click of a button I turn off my wifi for a bit.  Next thing I do is put away my phone. Or if its sitting beside me, I will flip it so I can’t see the screen light up if I get a notification of any sort.

 

So, thats it! There is my list of ways I write without distractions. Do you have certain ways you go about not getting distracted while writing? If so, tell me them in the comments! 😀 I’d love to hear from you all on how you go about avoiding distractions.

 

Until Next Time!

Adriana Gabrielle