A Guest Post on Positivity

So today I am sharing with you a guest post written by my friend Irma and I hope you enjoy her words of wisdom.

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Positivity. What is positivity?(Insert sarcasm here) I think everyone in this generation has some sense of the word. It means happiness and good vibes right? (what does that even mean?)

I think everyone in this generation has some sense of the word. It means happiness and good vibes right? (what does that even mean?)

I have been on a journey, and have been learning the power of positivity, but not necessarily in the way you might think.

There are two types of positivity: with and without realism. Let me elaborate.

The former is what we constantly see. Its intentions are good, very honorable. It is colorful and bright, with words like “express yourself!” and “You’re enough!

Now before I start a blow up online I would like to say that I believe in these things. But without context and without anything deeper, they leave us void and meaningless. They are pretty words without depth, blind to the pain and brokenness of the world that we live in.

“If we’re going to fight a disease let’s fight one of the most terrible diseases of all… indifference.”   -Robin Williams (as Patch Adams)

I came across a tribute video to Robin Williams the other day, with some of his famous movie quotes. I quite like the one above.

Positivity with realism. Now that is a challenge. But this is real positivity, it is what we call Joy. It is able to look into the world, see the despair, the hurt, the brokenness and the pain. It does not refute the fact that there are wars, starving people, and women being raped. It acknowledges the presence of the evil in the world and yet looks beyond. Joy chooses to stand in the face of fear and darkness, and say no. Not today. There is still goodness, and I choose to hope. It is having the ability to see the terrible things and yet still be kind, still be encouraging, still be happy, and still have compassion, instead of sinking into despair.

Positivity is not the absence of negativity. It is standing in the midst of it and choosing who you want to be.

 

Here is a snippet about Irma’s blog from her ‘About’ page:

 CaptureLife is a crazy beautiful ride, and every day is a new adventure. I’m excited to share with you all that God is teaching me, as well as the crazy, random moments of my daily life. This blog is a hodge podge of the things that make me, well… me. My hope is that in it you will be encouraged, inspired and that you’ll go out and share your own story.

You can check out Irma’s blog by clicking HERE.

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Dancing Through The Pain

Now you might think the title is metaphorical but no. I mean literally…but also get ready for some real stuff and life lessons! Wooh!

 

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le me Swing Dancing 🙂 ( photo cred: Swing Bridge Dance Club )

 

Something you all know about me at this point: I’m a huge lover of Swing Dance.  (Being deprived of it since I’ve moved is so hard)

BUT

Something you may or may not know about me is this: I have chronic pain in my legs (due to uneven arches in my feet.) This chronic pain affects me daily. Some days are worse than others but usually after a full day of running around doing errands and working I am out for the count and it hurts to walk or move.

 

 

Put chronic pain and Swing together and you get an interesting way of making said chronic pain worse. Yet I do it and keep doing it anyways.

 

Why?

 

Because I love it too much to stop. Now that might sound like a silly excuse but its the truth.

 

Why Swing Dance?

Swing Dance is something I did weekly before moving (I still dance around my apartment lots too. Not the same but hey I’m still groovin’ )  Not only was it fun but it really improved my mood but, for the first time in a long time, I REALLY looked forward to a new week ahead of me cause I always kicked off the week with dance.

Fun fact: Dance or Movement Therapy has been used for many centuries to improve the mental and physical well- being of a person. Since dancing is an art, it increases self-expression and helps people connect with themselves and others. Dancing is a form of art that offers a way to explore psychological roots to overcome certain illnesses such as depression. Research have shown that dancing provide benefits that can help minimize depression’s effects.

As well as it being fun there are actually a lot of health benefits of it. Swing Dancing is a fun way to work out without it really feeling like a workout in the moment. Dancing also makes you happier. Not just in the moment but also in the long run.

I’ve taken many kinds of dance over the last 4-5 years and it really does make you happier! and if I’m having a bad day I put on one of my favorite songs at top volume and just sing and dance away like no one is watching. (usually no one is haha)

Something else that Swing Dance has done for me personally is make me a little more social and confident. – I’m an introverted little human who much prefers sitting in a corner and waiting till someone approaches me and starts talking to me as opposed to my approaching them… but doing Swing Dance totally turned that around for me?

How?

Simple- Swing Dance is a very fun, outgoing, and social type of dance where, whether you are a lead or a follow, guy or girl, if you wanna dance you get your butt off that chair and go up to someone and ask them to dance.

For the first while when I first started Swing Dancing I was like ‘nuh- uh no way. Nope. I’m gonna sit here and wait for someone to ask me to dance.‘ but eventually I started going up to people and asking them to dance!

Now this might sound like a funny thing to discuss but here is the thing. If you are a introverted little human (as mentioned before) you would know that this is a scary thing! But in terms of Swing Dancing I now have NO problem (or almost no problem) walking up to someone and asking them to dance.

Where did the chronic pain come from? What can you do to relieve your pain?

As I stated above, my chronic pain affects my every day life as it is a reoccurring pain in my legs. It caused by uneven arches in my feet and when I went to go get it figured out I found out my one leg is carrying about 70% (cant remember exactly) of my body weight when I stand as opposed to having it distributed evenly. (So you can see there the pain comes from)

Essentially my pain relief comes with doing some stretches for my legs and feet as well as just not walking around and putting my feet up when I can. Other than that there isn’t much to be done.

Why do you dance if it hurts?

I keep doing dance because its honestly something I love and am passionate about. Swing Dance has helped me become more confident in myself and has also made me happier – as well as that I’ve gotten to know some amazing people who I now can call my friends.

 “Whats your point in telling me this, Adriana?” – well. Let me tie this all together here.

Basically my point is no matter what, do what you want to do or have dreamed of doing.

Don’t let anything hold you back whether it be mental or physical.

If there is something you truly love and are passionate about you will find a way to do it. For me that love and passion is swing dance.

For you it might be dance as well.

Or music.

Or painting.

No matter what it is, you can do it. If you just have faith in yourself and find the determination to reach for your dreams.

Achieve your goals.

If you set your mind to it you can do anything no matter what ‘limitations’ people tell you you have.

The Tag of Happiness!!

Happy tag Happiness

Rules:
Take the banner and put it in your post
List as many things as you want in each category
Come up with more categories if you wish
Tag as many people as you want

WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY?

Some songs that make you happy

Oops I Did It Again Cover by Postmodern Jukebox || Anything Postmodern Jukebox || Release The Panic by Red || Not Gonna Die by Skillet || Riptide by Vance Joy || Bubbly by Colbie Callait || Fight Song by Rachel Platten || Human by Christina Perri || Numb by Linkin Park || Beat It cover by Fall Out Boy || You Make Me Brave by Amanda Cook and Bethel Music || Brave by Moriah Peters || Light it Up by ForKING&COUNTRY || Jesus, Healer by Bluetree || Uncomfortable by Andy Mineo || Wild Things by Andy Mineo || Photograph by Ed Sheeran || Till Summer Comes Around by Keith Urban ||

Some books that make you happy

The Percy Jackson Books || Northanger Abbey by Jane Austen || The Status Update Series by Laura L. Smith || Glass Girl by Laura Anderson Kurk || The Fangirls Guide to the Galaxy by Sam Maggs ||

Some foods that make you happy

Nachos || Pizza || Ice Cream ||….I love Junk Food ok?

Some words that make you happy

Intention [in-ten-shuh n]
noun
1. an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.

2. the end or object intended; purpose.

Imagine [ih-maj-in]
verb (used with object), imagined, imagining.
1. to form a mental image of something not actually present to the senses.

2. to think, believe, or fancy

3. to assume; suppose

4.to conjecture; guess

Some scents that make you happy

Mint || Rain || Lilacs || Roses || Lemon || Baking Cookies (It’s a glorious smell, is it not?) || The Forest/Outdoors ||

Some random things that make you happy

Oversized Sweaters || Hugs || Writing || Poetry || Music || Thunderstorms || Reading || Dancing || Seeing my best friend(s) || Stars || Myths ||

I tag who ever feels like doing this tag!

Novel Time#5.2-NaNoWriMo Update

Hello Readers!

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Here is part two of today’s novel time post! So, I forgot to say thank you to all the people who asked my characters some questions which they answered in my previous post from a couple hours ago. (You can get there the easy way by clicking HERE)

So, today I have a couple quotes to show you all here. I would have had more, but I forgot to make more of them as I was writing (because I need to focus on catching up XD) But I do have two quotes for you! One happy, and one is not so happy. Anyways, here you go 🙂

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I absolutely love both these quotes a lot and I have more lined up but I have yet to make them. I plan to catch up on my NaNo this weekend (because I am so close!) then I will make more character quotes and show them to you 😀

Now, time for my little update here.

So, It is day 13 of NaNoWriMo (Though it feels like the month should be over already! :O ) and I am currently at a word count of 16,874 words (my target count for the end of today is 26667) and this story has made me cry….a lot. Especially these last couple chapters. They have been heart wrenching and things are just getting harder and harder for my main character but soon…very very soon….my favourite scene is coming. You guys, you guys, you guys! You don’t know how long I have been waiting to write this scene…It is gonna be so adorably awkward for Claire and the other character (who I will not mention due to spoilers!) in this scene. I am dying to write it and cannot wait…. It’s also a good thing that I am excited for that, because by that point, things slowly start to get better for my character at that point… So things are getting better! I can see the sun starting to shine through this storm my character is going through!!

So, yeah…. That’s my little update.

Now, I must go to Starbucks get an Eggnog Latte and get caught up on this word count.

Until Next Time!

Adriana Gabrielle

Finally!…A Writing Post!

Hello Readers!

Finally, I am bringing to you another writing post. (Took me a while right?) I am glad to see that people are enjoying all my new post series so far, but I really need to be getting back to my normal writing posts, don’t you think?

But first, a little update of life just in general, sound good? I have had multiple reasons for not doing writing posts lately, one of the reasons being I have a lot of blogs to post on weekly so trying to find time for all these posts is getting a little hard. (But now that I’ve made a calendar of all my blogging days things should become easier/more smooth.) Even more so now that I have taken the first step towards a blogging career a couple weeks ago, and I am now blogging weekly for an amazing blog called The Bottom Line. Also, as you all know, NaNoWriMo is going on. Usually around this time one of two things happens.

1.) My frequent posts lag

or

2.) They’re all about NaNoWriMo. (Which reminds me, I am gonna be posting (hopefully this week) a fun little post where I show you my ‘NaNoWriMo Survival Kit’)

Right now I do not want to let these posts lag so my ‘Novel Time’ posts are currently just about my NaNoWriMo Novel and such, but once NaNo is done those will be my writing posts. This coming Tuesday (I know technically there is not supposed to be a post every Tuesday) I will be doing another linkup to tell you a bit more about my novel and characters! (Fun right?) and I have another post coming in a couple weeks that is gonna be great! Just think sneak peaks, more character quotes, An update on my novel, My playlist for my novel and Rowan’s character interview (feel free to pop on over and ask him some questions here. and thanks to those who have already asked questions) As for NaNo I am STILL behind but I kind of figure this was going to happen…why? Because I didn’t outline…again so I really don’t know what will be happening in the novel. (When will I ever learn? Have an outline for NaNoWriMo people! Saves so much time!) Oh well, as long as I work my hardest, it’s all that counts really 🙂

So, now that that little update is out of the way, it’s time for my post! *cue cheers from the crowd of bloggers*

Today’s post is about Writing Emotions in a Relate-able Way

Writing emotions in your novel can be hard. First of all you actually have to write realistic emotions but second of all, they have to be relate-able. So not only do you have to make the characters emotions and reactions real but you have to make them relate-able? Yes, yes you do.

I oftentimes struggle when it comes to emotion stuff (at least in the first draft…If you don’t believe me, ask Vanessa…It’s bad.) Anyways. My issue is that, yeah the emotion is there people are reading it but when it comes to feeling the emotion…meh. It’s okay. If you are a writer you might understand what I mean. Like, the emotion is up there, its in your head it’s killing your feels (You know that feeling you get where you’re heart feels like its being pulled in every other direction and then it feels like someone shot your heart then took a hammer to it.) but getting that emotion and feeling out onto paper (or your glowing white word document 😉 ) and helping the readers see and feel that emotion is tough work. I mean, sure, no one gets it ‘perfect’ or ‘right’ in the first draft but there are some element we as writers all struggle in. Some areas are good as others, but some aren’t.

Something else, when writing emotions, that is both a blessing and a curse (depending what it is) is trying to make something the reader might not have ever felt and making them feel it. Making them understand. Or helping them anyways. Because we all know that we can’t make a reader DO anything…

…but we can crush their souls beyond repair. Mwahahahaa-*cough* oh my. *cough* Did I just say that out loud?

Anyways as I was saying…As a writer, its our job to share things we have felt or are feeling and make those things come alive on the page. They need to be real to the reader whether or not they’ve experienced the said emotion. Now, I am not in any way saying that you should baby your readers or explain everything to them as if they were little kids who only know the words ‘Happy’, ‘Sad’ or ‘Angry’ when it comes to emotions. That’s not what I’m saying at all, what I’m saying is that as the writers of this story we can’t just tell them the emotion this character is feeling. We need to show them. (This is where the whole Showing vs. Telling thing comes in.) Here is an example.

In my NaNoWriMo Novel ‘Aimlessly Wandering’, My main character Claire suffers from depression. Now, I could just say in the novel somewhere that she suffers from depression but that isn’t really enough is it? I mean, I’m telling the readers but I’m not making it believable or relate-able am I? You, as the reader, can just take it for granted and if I say she had depression then she does, but that just isn’t enough! You have to show it.

So instead of just telling the readers I could put my character in a certain situation to amplify those feelings. I could put her in a room of people who she knows and is friends with but show how she still feels alone. I could show the numb feeling that’s slowly taking over her body little bits at a time and refusing to let go, or the fake smiles and conversations so people don’t know what she’s really feeling, or the empty alone feeling that has her in its clutches giving her that sensation that she just wants to go home and that she doesn’t belong. I could show this inner battle inside her mind to tell someone that she is close to that she needs help and show how she doesn’t say anything about it. (This is a very basic description but I am just trying to get my point across)

This really does, like most elements of writing, loop back constantly to the whole Show don’t Tell scenario and I really think that that is key in order to get the reader to see, feel or hear anything. Actually, I don’t think I know…

So, is there a way that you write certain scenes? Do you wait until you might feel something similar to the character in that scene so you can write it more effectively? (I know some people who do) Or do you use previous experiences? How do you do about it? Do you just write or do you have your own little technique?

Also, once again before I leave I wanna remind you to, if you haven’t already, maybe pop by and ask my MMC Rowan some questions? (Click here) He’s a cool guy and cannot wait to interview him! I think y’all will like him 😀

Well, that’s all until Next Time!

Adriana Gabrielle